Etiquette, and Common Decency, Plunge Down the Shaft

After living in rent-stabilized walkups, including an eighth-floor studio (pre-war buildings on the Village with lettered apartments on the entry floor got away with adding an extra floor, each with four tiny flights of narrow stairs) for more than a decade, I appreciate every ride to and from my 17th-floor one-bedroom. For Mike and me, living in an elevator doorman building is a luxury we do not take for granted. Even when one elevator's being repaired or used for a move in or out, we've got another one. Sure they're often slow, but that's mostly the fault of our fellow tenants. Yesterday I went after the sociopolitical sins of suburbia. Today I'm making it abundantly clear that Manhattan's got its share of social criminals.

There are still some rent stabilized tenants in our building, including a lovely older couple who live across the hall and are polite under all circumstances, including when the elevator's being held on a lower floor. But most of our neighbors pay the same premium we do for amenities such as an elevator. It's little surprise that the biggest complainers include those pay the least to live here. Then there are those who seem not to care how much they spend, though they think their share entitles them to VIP treatment. Most days I can shrug this off, appreciating the luxury even as others are ungrateful. But today, every ride up and down was rife with rudeness. I could chronicle each offender, like the mumbling man who forced his way into the car, ramming Michael Alexander's stroller, which already was flush with the wall, and dragging his tobacco-infused winter coat in my baby's face. Or the woman who balked that she had to hold her bouquet of flowers closer to her heavily made up face to make room for others. But I'll focus on one chronic culprit. Mike and I call her Cougar. Her real name's Beth and she's a freelance writer, though I suspect she works about four hours a week, max, as she's mostly out shopping or bitching on her cellphone through a mouthpiece. She has a housekeeper, sends her laundry out and orders in frequently. And apparently, she thinks the elevators are her private cars.

Oh, yeah. We call her Cougar because she's a well-heeled 40-something woman with a late-night appetite for younger men. She's attractive, in that manufactured, moneyed Manhattan way. She's very trim. I'd say fit, but I think she's just blessed with a monster metabolism, as I see her at the gym exerting about as much effort as it takes me to watch Bravo. She doesn't break a sweat on her infrequent stops in Spin class. Of course, she doesn't add any tension to the bike. After all, that could crimp her salon blowout. The horror! Cougar's antics are absurd, and usually a source of comic relief. There's the time Mike caught her making out with a tall, younger Brit in an empty apartment being prepped for the next tenant. (Mike was taking out the trash and saw her and her conquest of the night in the apartment next to the compacter room.) Disposing of rubbish, albeit inappropriately, seems to be the only chore she'll tolerate. She can't be bothered to toss trash down the chute so she drops it near the recycling bin. And often, she dumps things in the hallway, right in front of our door. There were the Topshop panties. There was the letter from the insurance company chronicling her withdrawl of her claim that she "lost" an engagement ring, only to later "find" it in her apartment. The list is exhaustive. Nightly refuse includes giant bottles of sake. The better to cougar you with, my dear! On the trash room floor, I've seen more panties, candles, books on the occult and fancy boxes from the many freebies she gets to abet her "job" covering food and luxury goods. But her elevator abuse is no laughing matter.

She's always scurrying, tiny dog in tote, to and from the elevators, cursing as she's realized she forgotten whatever it is she needs for a day of dallying or an eve of cougaring. On multiple occasions, I've seen her place her designer handbags, unzipped with wallet exposed, in the elevator doorway to hold it while she fetches her cougar gear. Our apartment's right in front of the elevators, so I hear her every profanity-laden trip, punctuated by her pooch's high-pitched yapping. I've been tempted to kick her tote into the car and send it down for a ride. But I'm a nice person, really I am. I just have these thoughts. That, and the shrill shoutout when she discovered it gone would scare the baby.

Today, I had the displeasure of taking two rides with her, and witnessing her make four other attempts to get downstairs. On one occasion, Michael Alexander and I were headed up from the basement laundry room. (I wonder if Cougar even knows there's a laundry room. Another luxury for Mike and me, as we used to tote our laundry several blocks from the walkups.) She got in the car on the first floor, only to realize she needed to complain to the doorman about something. "Hold it!" she hollered as she left behind the dog and went to ask for some favor without tipping. We waited as four other people came in and got in the car. "Hold it!" she repeated. Once she finally decided to join us, she sighed and said "There's no room here." About an hour later, as Michael Alexander and I returned from an errand, we got behind five other people waiting for the elevator, including an elderly man with a walker. As soon as he saw the stroller, he backed out and said "Women and children first." I told the four others waiting to go first, but they all insisted I take the lead. Just then, Cougar and her canine arrived, and she hurried past the others, following me into the car. Though she weighs no more than 105 pounds, soaking wet, and her dog's the size of a small cat, she sprawled across the car and hit the door close button, even as those before her waited. "There's room for at least three more people," I said, gesturing to my neighbors. "No! There is no room!" she quipped, giving me a look of deep-rooted contempt and pounding again on the door close button. Joining us for the ride was a young woman I didn't recognize. But she was friendly with Cougar, lamenting that she'd trekked all the way across Union Square Park to go to Sephora only to find her favorite eyeliner sold out. Oh, no! Cougar sympathized, equating the young woman's suffering with her own struggle in the "crammed" car. Cougar was back for another ride as Michael Alexander and I returned from another trip to the laundry room. The door was closing behind us, taking a man to the 18th floor. "Hold it!" she called out, making this her mantra, or at least the only words she uttered to me directly today. "It's going up," I said, not looking back. She sighed and launched into another round of swearing and self-loathing.

Yesterday I used this blog to voice a serious concern, hoping to raise some consciousness. Today, I'm guilty of being snarky, even somewhat self-serving. Don't send me down the shaft. It's Friday.